Friday, December 21, 2012
Musings on Motherhood
Have I mentioned I have a BA in Art History and Anthropology? Well I do. And it is my anthropological background that I think gives me the strength to question and analyse the expectations of both me and my child by the world at large.
I don't want this blog to become a mummy blog (nothing wrong with them, I follow several, (hank and lucy, the artful parent, and Kate Subrosa (who unfortunately has stopped blogging) and began to well before the arrival of my little one). In fact I want to use it to save me from being someone who can only talk about children and parenting - to remind me there is a wider world out there, but this blog, for me, is a 'scrapbook of things I find interesting' and therefore sometimes it will be about Mum stuff.
So as I struggle with the multiple options of sleep and settling, feeding, routine and try and make the decisions that may or may not impact my child and her world views, I find myself both seeking, and ignoring advice from various quarters.
I want to follow my heart when i comes to my daughter, it is my duty to insure she sees me following my instincts and beliefs, rather than following the norm and second guessing myself. But at the same time the pressure not to 'create a rod for my own back' makes me read and read and read some more in order to feel more confident about my choices.
With the wealth of information on the multiple parenting 'theories' (no matter how contradictory, most are supposedly endorsed by 'experts' or 'proven' by science) I kept thinking of what other societies did when it came to parenting so I got off the parenting websites and looked at anthropological ones. I have found them fascinating, but like all parenting advise you need to keep in mind what the motives of the author is.
I will not sit here and offer parenting advise. All parents should follow there own hearts, gut feelings and logic. All parents intend to do the best they can for their children and i don't believe there is a right answer, but that we should do what is right for us, and our own developing families.
However, if like me you want explore the wonderful diversity of motherhood and child rearing here are some sites I found interesting.
How They Do It a cross cultural comparrisen on baby zone
AnthropoChildren is a mothers perspective in the feild. Not in depth but peaked my interest and I will look into reading more of her material if I can hunt it down.
Motherlands An anthropological and Literary resource on becoing a parent in the age of globalisation
Trends in American Child Rearing
Other websites I think may be worth reading by parents, and almost parents
Purple Crying about how crying is normal - which can come as a relief to many
Kelly Mom loads of advice on feeding, sleeping and other subjects as well.
Essential Baby the forums are great for getting a opinions and ideas from mums who have been there dont that, or are going through the same sort of thing. Can be good for getting multiple veiwpoints on a subject.